Thinking about the future and everything that has to be done—how can I manage this practically?

41.Thinking about the future and
everything that has to be done—how can
I manage this practically?

Focus on the present and about how you
and your partner are going to cope with the
current problems, here and now. In other words,
be in the moment.

Focus on one day at a time, one moment at a time, and
solving one problem at a time. Try to move beyond
thinking about the past, “what-ifs,” and “why’s.” Instead,
focus on the present and about how you and your partner
are going to cope with the current problems, here and
now. In other words, be in the moment. If you are feeling
happy and calm, allow yourself to sit and enjoy this feeling.

Whenever you are feeling distressed, identify what
you are experiencing physically and emotionally. This
will help you begin to focus on identifying the problem
and to help solve it. By focusing on the issue at hand,
you may then be able to formulate a plan that can reduce
feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.

If you are already on “emotional overload,” first step back
a moment and identify what you were thinking about
before you felt overwhelmed. Were you worrying about
all the doctor appointments or things you have to do but
are not able to given time or other constraints? Second,
identify your feelings. For example, do you feel regret or
frustration at not being able to do what you want or
believe you need to do? Next, problem solve by prioritizing
your commitments according to their importance and
according to other factors, such as your energy levels and
other limits. Can someone else help you? By breaking
down and surmounting obligations, you will take control,
be less overwhelmed, and reduce negative feelings.


Tip: Take out a pen and paper, and make a list of priorities.
Circle or mark some problems that you can solve now.
Solving a few smaller problems first will help you feel that
you are making some concrete steps toward accomplishing
your goals.